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Why we love dark chocolate

Among other things, I am a dark chocolate addict.  I typically buy dark chocolate that is >70% cacao.  I like eating it with coffee, with tea, and especially after dinner.  When I’m buying it for someone else, I typically combine a good bar with a good drink.  It mellows the flavor and lets you take a break from its loveliness just for long enough so that when you take the next bite your feeding your addiction again.

But we don’t only like dark chocolate because it tastes good.  Lots of things taste good.  Not many people would deny a cup of their favorite ice cream, or creme brulee, or if we move to other food groups: an amazing fillet of salmon with rosemary potatoes.  There is something more to dark chocolate.

Yes, sometimes chocolate chills us out after a meal, but most of the time, when we think about what we’re told about chocolate, it has to do with Love.  With sex. Chocolate makes us voracious.  If it isn’t working, we want to eat more.

Chocolate gives us that same feeling of sitting on a hammock in warm spring breeze, while in our head living the fantasy of being the star of the show on a dance floor with the opposite sex eye-balling us to death, with a wink, and with big pink letters telling us what they are all about 😉

Ok maybe I took it a bit too far.  Point is we associate chocolate with a good time, and typically with a good time with the opposite sex.  Not many food groups get that honor.

Truthfully, there are both psychological and scientific reasons why chocolate has this association.  For one chocolate, especially dark chocolate has traces of Phenethylamine, which in short is a stimulant.  The type of stimulant that is found in antidepressants.  Not strong enough evidence? It also contains dopamine — which is a compound released after you work out, after you win the lottery, after you have sex.  Still not good enough?  It was chocolate that enabled a woman to steal johnny depp’s heart.

If you don’t like chocolate, you’re probably too worried about the sugar, or perhaps you have another fix that you like more.  Either way, I hope you’ve found your food group that has a strong association with love.  And when you have — buy it, eat it, and give it away to someone you love, or like 🙂

The lengths men go

Yes, men like to chase women, and Yes women like to be chased.  Overstatement? Absolutely.  But some part of what I just said you all can relate to.  We’ve all chased or have been chased.  And we all love it and hate it at the same time.

I thought I really understood what it meant to chase a women until I saw this video — and I like the other 8,000 (literally) people that left comments on this youtube video were incredibly surprised!  I never knew someone would go to such lengths in the chase.

If I was going to write a blog post about why someone chased, I would have to write pages about men vs. women biology, natural selection, evolutionary process, and social psychology.  Alas, I’m not going to bore you with those details.  But I will say this.  Most of the time we all appreciate honest, straightforward communication.  The problem with a chase is that is implies a “catch” and few of us enjoy the feeling of being “caught” — so my comment is about the psychology of the chase.

Don’t think you’re chasing, and try to prevent yourself from feeling like your being chased.  Instead just understand that when one individual “likes you” they are going to try to express that.  This applies to men and to women. Judge them by what they do and what they say instead of worrying about the “chase” and the “catch”.

Stay hungry, but be honest and straightforward.  We will appreciate that.  Relationships, regardless if they are romantic or not tend to evolve organically otherwise they tend to fracture and have to reboot.  If you’re chasing or being chased, its difficult for that process to happen organically.  Thus try to your best to not push either party too hard — just be yourself and be around that person when the opportunity presents itself — that will insure the most organic process and thus the most natural result.  What gives me the right to give such advise?  Absolutely nothing, but this is my blog, so I get to say what I want 🙂

And as for the guy in the video — I’d say you can tone it down a bit 😉 She will get the same idea without you turning yourself into MacGyver, The Incredible Hulk and Sylvester Stallone in one video shoot.

the walk-by glance

What did he/she mean by that?  Have you ever been walking down the street, glanced at someone and they just kept looking forward pretending not to see you?  Have you ever just been gazing around and noticed someone looking intently at you?

Yes you have, and so have I.  There is a lot of subconscious thought that goes behind each of those thoughts.  Here are some examples:

1. Guy walks by and looks at girl, girl fidgets a bit and looks intentionally forward: maybe she didn’t notice the guy, but most likely she did.  You can just tell.  Nobody looks straight ahead for that long without blinking.  I’d say almost all of the time, unless we’re in a rush, we notice people that smile at us when we are walking by them.  So why doesn’t the girl look back.  Well, I dunno.  But one likely reason is that she is worried.  She is worried about how the guy will interpret that look, and what might come next…. Don’t worry! We’re just smiling!

2. Guy walks by and smiles, girl smiles back: She’s just being nice.  Even if you pretend she is doing more, and you approach her, she likely will just pretend that she was “just being nice.” Best move: Smile back, and hope you meet her again.

3. Guy walks by and gawks at girl: Guy is just being an asshole.  Ignore him. 🙂

4. Guy walks by and looks straight ahead.  Girl looks at guy.  OMG.  This is a rare occasion.   If the guy notices he is happy.  Last time this happened to him was when little cindy asked him to dance in the 3rd grade.  If he doesn’t notice, and the girl did it intentionally then the girl is probably a little upset.  Why didn’t he notice?  Jeez.  I was just trying to be nice.  Guys fault this time.

5. Guy and girl walk by each other, neither of them look at each other.  Neither of them smile. Maybe they are both busy, but they might have just missed their chance.  So smile next time, and hope to meet them again. 🙂